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Hi! My name is Doris.

In my life I am a dental hygienist, holistic life coach, bar tender, tailor, receptionist, website designer, pet caretaker, DJ, face painter, artist, sister, daughter, aunt, friend and girlfriend.

Now, I am a simple writer sharing my journey with those willing to dive into the pages of my life.

I have always been the one to want to help others. I wanted to take the burden and pain from others. I have seen that I have taken on what is not mine. The weight has become too much to shoulder. I found pride in my work as a dental hygienist, life coach and Reiki practitioner because I felt that these professions fulfilled that sense of help. But, why did I feel depleted at the same time? Coming to the realization that I am the one I should be taking care of has changed the direction of my life. I asked myself "Why is my focus and care on others, but not myself? Why does the well being of those around me come before my own?"

I have recently quit my job of a caretaker of others. I have surrendered the sense of responsibility and transformed it into a sensation of self care and self love. I quit my journey in healing myself. I quit trying to fix myself and others. I quit trying to help others. I quit the things that I have no control over. I just want to learn who I am and what brings me joy. I want to sing, dance and have fun. I want to discover the delights of my soul. I want to have fun while I'm living and breathing.

I used to think it was selfish to think of myself and what I needed. Eventually, I learned that it's not selfish or wrong to think of me. It's actually called self love. Ain't nothing wrong with that. I know that helping myself has more impact on those around me. They say that you can't fill anyone else's glass with an empty pitcher.

That was me. An empty pitcher that tried to replenish myself with my sense of duty to other people. After a lifetime of feeling depleted and frustrated, I quit. I relinquished the position not out of frustration, malice or hate, but more so in a sense of a love and faith. I believe in other people and their ability to figure out their own storms on their own terms. I may assist, but not as intrusively as I once did. My assistance is through my writings and conversations. I veer away from giving advice and instead want to create space in love and peace so that others may find their own answers. I recognize that loving someone is allowing them to struggle and overcome. Getting through rough patches and coming out stronger and wiser person is a gift that is more valuable than I know. I provide a shoulder to lean on. I provide a hand to wipe away the tears. I provide arms to embrace and comfort. I provide a heart to love. Strong arming and forcing people into a "better" place is no way to love. This is what I see.

I am coming to terms that I am perfect as I am and so are other people. I am an insecure, anxious, scared, sad, abnormal, expressive, cheerful, intuitive, highly sensitive, and an emotional perfectionist. The more I can embrace myself just as I am, the more I can do that for others. We are all perfect just as we are. The good, the bad and the ugly. There is not a single person alive that is good all the time. We all go through struggles and have moments of "imperfection". Can we accept that having all these undesirable traits is what make us human? In the end, can we embrace the fact that what makes us human is the good and bad all mashed up into a beautiful being?

So, please enjoy the writings and recommended books and be inspired to find your own unique way through your storms and struggles. I hope that each of the shared stories and realizations that are in my blog and suggested books provide helping hands and sunlight through the stormy seas.

Perhaps life will call me to return to providing life coaching and mentoring others. 

For now, I focus on the most important journey, me.

"Life is like the ocean. There are waves and turbulent waters. Just as there are calm waters and smooth breeze. I am not the drop in the sea. I am the sea."

~Doris, 2022

"You can't prepare to be great,

because you already are."

~Alan Cohen

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